Monday, October 29, 2007

I'M GAY TO THE MAX!

Are you GAY

you are gay to the MAX you like men so realize the truth
How do you compare?
Take this test! from Testriffic



*falls out of chair laughing*

I laugh because I'm tired of crying...and well, this one was pretty funny. In a horrible, horrible way.

Wednesday, October 24, 2007

why i gave up on a journalism degree

"Don't use your phone in a public restroom. That's just gross." is only one of the great quotes I found in this wonderful article on msn.

http://tech.msn.com/products/articlecnet.aspx?cp-documentid=5569792&page=1

And I thought I wrote shitty rants! This piece of work sounds like it was written by a 12-year-old, the grammar is terrible, it's ridiculous, and the worst part of it all is the guy is a fucking senior editor. Which only furthers my belief that getting a college degree is a waste of time.

the importance of friends


Ahahahah!

Monday, October 22, 2007

fuzzy math: last minute paper + booze + stress + lack of sleep + = ?

Win. At least til the booze wears off.

So here's the next in a series of horrible papers, although the first one got an A. I think everyone that turned in something that looked like coherentish english got the full points, so I'm not too proud of it.

This lovely assignment was basically to talk about how Brandon Teena, a girl who dressed and lived as a male, ultimately met her end because of society's compulsory heterosexuality. I'll post the whole stupidass assignment next time I feel like typing a bunch of bullshit. Besides this paper, I mean.

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It’s a beautiful night. I’m walking along the side of the road in the crisp night air and gazing up at the stars, lost in thought. The road is empty and the world is blissfully quiet. At this hour, even the city lights seem to have fewer numbers, and the stillness is comforting. All of a sudden a police car comes whizzing down the road and flashes his lights to stop me. The officer pulls alongside me and proceeds to give me a hard time, asks where I’m coming from and what I’m doing out in the middle of the night, runs my ID while shooting me suspicious looks, and finally lets me go about my business after wasting my time and making me stand around embarrassed in the cold.
I’m a night person. If I could sleep when and how I wanted to, my schedule would run from 2 pm to 6 am, with sleep during the “normal” active hours of 6 am to 2 pm. A walk at 4 am is perfectly normal behavior as far as I’m concerned. Getting up at the ungodly hour of 9 am to attend classes all day requires far more effort of me than most people.
What does this have to do with homosexuality and Brandon Teena? A lot, actually. Was I pulled over and harassed because I was out in the middle of the night and society forces us to follow the typical common schedule of the “daytime people”? Or were there other reasons behind this? I’m not the only person like this; in fact, there are a lot of people who run on an opposite schedule as the “rest of the country”. Should I write my congressman and demand myself the rights that I’m denied because I can’t follow the hours of the general public? Should I demand that school excuse my absences created by my inability to get up in the morning? Should I and the people like me revolt and have parades until everything in the country runs 24 hours to accommodate us?
Compulsory heterosexuality, compulsory biorhythms, compulsory acceptance, compulsory anything. At which point does it become so utterly ridiculous that people stop listening? Our world is already so PC (politically correct) that we can’t say anything anymore without offending someone or being an insensitive bigot, regardless of our intentions. I’m going to refer Brandon Teena as “she” for this paper. Why? Let’s say I’m holding a small, round, orange-colored fruit. Slicing it open reveals a circular array of sections with pulpy fruit inside. The flavor is sweet and tangy. You probably know what it is, most people can identify it. But I’m going to call this fruit a pear, because I like the word pear and that’s what I think it looks like, for whatever reason.
Calling an orange a pear does not make it a pear. Teena Brandon/Brandon Teena was, by all the physical information presented to us in class, a female. I don’t know what childhood experiences altered her perception of self or what mental processes were at work, but the internal psychological idea of gender is not what we go by in society. Considering myself the Queen of England does not, and should not, encourage everyone in my presence to refer to me as “Your Highness”. Therefore I will refer to her as a she.
If I look at someone and I honestly can’t tell if it’s a male or a female, and I ask them what they are (assuming I throw aside all of the rules of proper and polite behavior), I will call them whatever they inform me. I will not, however, take secondhand words from someone else and use them merely because I’m told to. Watching a 25 minute section of a video, which even in its entirety is only a window into a person’s entire life, and reading writings by women completely out of context, is not going to provide us with any type of tools or any right to write a paper analyzing an individual or society’s effect on them.
We know nothing of her previous relationships with her assailants, nothing of her mental state, when she started to dress as a male, no details of her life other than the snippet of the documentary. All we know is that she dressed and attempted to pass herself off as a male, and as a direct or indirect result of this, was raped and ultimately killed.
A “regular” girl gets raped and killed and there is no long investigation, no uproar from the community, no documentary or candlelight vigil or class studying the event years later. It happens ALL the time, and the only reason that this case stands out is because the victim was aberrant. And it IS aberrant.
The concept of socially constructed gender is another paper in itself, but for the sake of brevity, I’m sticking to biologically and socially accepted definitions. Reducing humans to the basic levels, a male has a penis and XY chromosomes, a female has a vagina and XX chromosomes. A male and a female mate to produce offspring. This is, by nature, “normal behavior”. There are physical deviances from the norm, whether they are due to birth defects, evolution, or just a line of DNA that got misplaced. And then there are psychological deviances, for a myriad of reasons, which lead males and females to deviate from the typical behavior pattern.
So what we’re supposed to be talking about is how society’s forced heterosexuality caused these events to occur. But examining the issue with that narrow-minded focus causes us to see things the way we want to and close our minds to other possibilities.
The second-rate, poorly done documentary speaks more about compulsory heterosexuality than any of the events we saw. What this low-budget production tells us is that homosexuality and transsexuals are issues relegated to public access channels, private groups, and mandatory college classes that no one wants to take.
One line that stood out to me was “I have a sexual identity crisis.” It’s the only thing she said clearly in the entire interview with the police officer, and then when she was asked for elaboration on this bold statement, she stated: “I don’t want to talk about it.” It feels like a cop-out answer, an escape rather than a response.
I have a social disorder…but I don’t want to talk about it. I must be mentally ill in some way or another. There’s a name for everything, a pill for everything, an excuse for any and every ill that we may or may not truly have. Compulsory acceptance opens up more questions, doubts and fears in children’s and society’s (who as a group has the same mental faculties as a child) minds. Start forcing compulsory acceptance on them, teach them from a young age all about lesbianism, transgenders, bisexuals, or whatever the current hot button issue is, and they become uncertain and paranoid. “I think my best friend is pretty, that must make me a lesbian…” First grade children, too young to understand any type of sexual feelings, are coming to these conclusions.
It is fine to be a lesbian, it is fine to be gender confused, it is just dandy to do whatever you want on your own, but when you start forcing your views on everyone else, how long before it becomes compulsory to be on the other side of things? Homosexuals couldn’t speak out in class for fear of being outed or hated before? Now heterosexuals can’t say anything for fear of being looked at like intolerant, insensitive heathens. Political correctness makes us mince words, call our boyfriends and girlfriends “partner” instead of their names to spare everyone’s feelings. People can’t speak up in class because anything contrary to the instructor’s opinions is shot down immediately. Why can’t we coexist without having a dominancy struggle? Why do we have to jump to blame tragic events on the scapegoat of intolerance?
“The way she was treated by the sheriff”? It’s called an investigation, a cross-examination, it’s called a police officer doing his job. When you interview a suspect or victim, you don’t play nice, you have to gather all of the facts. It doesn’t matter if it’s your best friend, a police officer has to take the hard line and throw out his emotions. In a small Podunk town where a police officer has done nothing more than save a cat stuck up a tree, lesbians and transsexuals and rape are things from the big scary wide world, and anyone with some intuition or interpersonal reading skills could tell he didn’t know how to handle it.
The fatal shooting incident, which not only involved not only Brandon Teena but two other people and a child (spared probably because of its innocence)? If these two men were intending to destroy evidence or the person to testify against them, wouldn’t they have planned a little better than to have to kill an entire house full of people? There were other factors at play that we will never know about and we can’t begin to understand.
What happened in the minds of the men when she was outed as a female? A person that kills another is generally deemed to have psychological issues. Was the shock from the deception enough to push a deranged person over the edge? We can’t answer these questions.
When we sit around and try to overanalyze our world, we end up applying our own set of beliefs and standards instead of looking at things with an open mind. I can’t deny that Brandon Teena’s life was affected by society’s standards of gender roles and heterosexuality. But at the same time, I can’t attribute everything that happened to these factors.
Although this may just be because society is imposing its compulsory biorhythms on me, forcing me to write this at 3 pm…the middle of my night.

Sunday, October 21, 2007

msn with a decent article? zomg

"This isn't true for most people: Sexual signals usually zip right past the rational brain, because as Rodgers puts it, if two people 'immediately considered all the possible risks and vulnerabilities they might face if they mated or had children, they'd run screaming from the room.' Now, that I can understand. To actually have sex, I must be not only in love but also in full legal possession of the other party's medical records. The advantage of this approach is that what you miss in casual thrills, you gain in long-term compatibility. That initial spark of interest leads not to the nearest motel room but to the prolonged scrutiny you would give an unrecognizable substance before deciding to include it in a cake. "

from http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/loveandromance/articleOPRAH.aspx?cp-documentid=5536985&page=1

Sunday, October 14, 2007

OMG SWEAT

Antiperspirants...really now. I'm tired of stupid commercials.

"Did you know one in 4 men worry that they sweat too much?" They just WORRY that they do, they don't actually... meaning that the sweat disorders we hear about aren't nearly that common.
"3 times more protection than required!" Meaning that it's overpowered and guarenteed to give you cancer 3 times faster!

There's a similar commercial for women, equally as stupid and poorly written, much like this blog.

Hey, I think I found myself a new career path!

Friday, October 12, 2007

next time it's netflix

I'm never renting another movie again. It's a pain in the ass to return them.

I started my debacle of an afternoon/evening by forgetting to bring the movies that I was going to return. Of course I didn't realize this until I was stuck halfway across the bridge in a traffic jam courtesy of one of the local asshole cabbies and a motorcycle. There wasn't even any wreckage or dead bodies, but as with every accident, the entire police force and a compliment of fire trucks were there to block up the lanes.

20-some mins later I ended up at the mall, planning to kill some time while the inept authorities cleaned up the mess. I wandered into the Tilt to play DDR and was greeted with horrendous BO, wafting from 4 grossly obese kids playing what must have been an exhausting game of air hockey.

Trashing that idea before I threw up, I decided to brave the traffic again and head back to get the movies, which went roughly the same as the first time, only this trip I got to have my heater on full blast the whole way because my car was about to overheat.

I finally got home, was greeted with the same obnoxious neighbors blasting their tv (now I know they're a bleach blond and some ethnic boyfriend, what an original pairing), and headed back for the third fun trip across the bridge of doom, which STILL wasn't cleared out.

I returned my movie without further diress, and went about my shopping, where I realized that I'm a cat-lady-in-training as I filled my shopping cart with tea, cat litter, cat food, and canned vegetables. I'm not sure if this pissed me off or made me sad, because at this point I was pretty well done with my day.

It seriously can't be just me.

Thursday, October 11, 2007

the MAN is keeping me down

I'm fucking pissed off.

You wanna know why?
Cause I hate men.
What, you wanna know why again? You're a good listener! Have YOU taken this class too?!
I hate men because they and their patriarchal society forced me to believe that heterosexuality is the norm, and lesbianism is abberrant, when really, lesbianism is perfectly normal and natural, and everyone should do it! Not only should we all be lesbians, we should all celebrate it openly, and bash the normal, heterosexual people! Ha, haha! Irony! I mean, it's so terrible that "Coming Out Day" today was off the main stage area of the EMU in less than a couple hours because no one gave a shit, errr, nobody cared... err... anyway, it was replaced by some stupid jockocracy game show.

I'm so glad we have classes like "Women, Difference and Power" or whatever the fuck it's called to keep my opinions in order! If we didn't have classes like this, I'd still be thinking that being fat was unhealthy (it's NOT, in fact it's actually healthier to be 400 pounds "overweight," the MAN has just told us that fat is bad because he likes looking at thin bodies!). I'd still be thinking that mascots such as Indians were okay because they were cartoonish parodies! God forbid!

And speaking of God, I sure hope we get to talking about Him in class, because I know it will be so enlightening that I'll want to shoot myself in the head!

Wednesday, October 3, 2007

the art of the 3 hour paper

It's due tomorrow, and I could give a fuck about this class. It's a 2-for-1 deal, fulfilling two stupid requirements in one class, which is the only reason I'm still in it. We have an assload of mini-papers, thankfully requiring no research or actual reference to the book that I don't have.

For this assignment we had to analyze gender roles and talk about how something in our lives shaped our opinion of gender. Pretty fucking gay. Ooops, I said gay in a negative way.

Anyway.
Presenting: shitty paper #1!


The image of the Barbie doll stuck swinging on the power line, though more than a decade ago, is still fresh in my mind. I have fond memories of that power-line Barbie, a doll that managed, on one fall back to earth after being repeatedly flung into the air on a space trip or some other adventure, to hook her arm around the line and hang for a week before finally blowing down.
I’m 23 years old, and I’ve never been the all-pink, high-voiced, weak, half-clothed, makeup-obsessed girl that everyone in our society seems to love and encourage. Then again, I didn’t become the bulky, low-voiced, sleeveless plaid shirt-wearing, rough-and-tumble opposite, either. I ended up happily in the middle, able to cynically and sarcastically observe and analyze everything around me, although that usually doesn’t leave me happy.
A lot of who I became has to do with my immediate family and surroundings. I have a younger brother who was born when I was 5. When he got to the age of being less of an annoyance and more of a friend, we were constant playpals. We thought it was fun to make miniature houses and then destroy them Godzilla-style, we liked to draw mustaches and unibrows on Rainbow Brite’s oversized plastic head, and it was always a better idea to drag Barbie’s Jeep behind the bikes than cruise her around the living room. Our parents never stereotyped our toys; we had Legos on the same playtable as pretend jewelry, and there were no admonitions of “don’t play with that, it’s for boys/girls!” Both of us played Barbie dolls, but our Barbies were paratroopers, police, and commandos more often than they were homemakers.
Another factor was the class of society we belonged to, and the type of people I was around from a young age. My father is a lapidary, which meant that I spent much of my childhood being trucked from one corner of the country to the other, digging rocks and setting up tables at rock and gem shows. I was home schooled up to middle school, and my brother until late grade school, which I believe played a huge part in both of our gender roles. For me especially, I wasn’t in the mainstream. I didn’t spend my day constantly assaulted and pressured by my peers to become like the images they saw on TV and in magazines.
Instead of my peer group, I spent most of my time with the rock and gem crowd, which is usually middle aged or older men, sometimes couples. They’re a close-knit band of classic rock enthusiasts and social pot smokers who miss the good old days when society was less complicated. They’re a hard-working group, because there’s no room for whiners or slackers on a digging trip. One of the most important childhood lessons I learned from these people is that women can get respect from being strong, more than they’d get from being pretty, dumb and helpless. My mother and the other rockhound wives weren’t left at home making lunches, they were right there with the men, getting dirty shoveling dirt, hiking up hills, and hauling digging tools and buckets of rock around.
Although I’m not around that circle of people anymore, much of my childhood is echoed in my behavior today. I’m sensitive to the gender games people play, and I don’t let stereotypes and cultural or gender roles stop me from doing things I enjoy.
One example of this is Dance Dance Revolution (DDR), an arcade dancing game. I’ve played this game for 5 years. The object of the game is to step on the arrows as they scroll up the screen, which is fairly easy at the basic level, and a lot of effort at the higher end. It’s flashing lights, peppy music, and multi-colored arrows in a brightly colored cabinet. This and the fact that it’s dancing, most people would think this would be a girl-dominated game; however you rarely see girls playing at anywhere near the level of the male players, who seem to be the main audience for the game.
As a female player who can generally play at the same, or better, level as the males that dominate the game, I get a lot of boys that won’t play with me, or even after me, because they don’t want to be beaten or shown up by a girl. Our society says that men should be tougher and better than girls at, apparently, everything that they perceive as masculine. Since DDR is a physically demanding game, it’s fallen into the category of something males should be good at. Girls who could be, or already are, good at the game often won’t play just to avoid alienating the boys. (I also see girls getting into DDR for the sole purpose of attracting boys. They play the easiest difficulty, wear low cut shirts, and jump around a lot for attention.)
Another thing I’ve observed is that the girls that do play are often not very good because they don’t want to get sweaty or red-faced, which inevitably happens when playing difficult songs. They don’t want to trip up and look bad when they’re still learning to play. It’s okay for the boys to mess up and smell bad, but women are supposed to be graceful and pretty, and apparently free of sweat-glands. The types of girls that could become good but can’t get past their fear of being out of the norm end up filling the role of the pretty, smiling girlfriend. Instead of playing DDR, they hang behind the machine, holding their boyfriends’ coats and clapping supportively every time their men finish a song.
What always annoys me when I watch this playing out is that every one of those girls has the potential to be as good, if not better, than the boys that they’re holding back for. Because of the way they were brought up and the rules they feel obligated to follow, they’re missing out on many things they want to do.
There’s a psychological experiment where girls were given monster trucks and traditional ‘boy toys’ to see if they would play in the traditional boy manner or as girls. They turned around and played house with them, making “mommy trucks” and “baby trucks”. They were very young girls, so students generally take this to mean that girls are inherently girls; that gender is more nature than nurture.
What people ignore is the fact that those girls were stereotyped by society from before the day they were born, from the songs their mothers sang while they were in the womb to their rainbow pony nurseries to the pink booties they were dressed in to the way people treated them the very moment they knew the babies were girls.
While I’m sure there is a nature-based component to who we ultimately become, my personal experiences and observations of gender lead me to believe that it is strongly rooted in nurture and especially our places in society. I have no doubts that had I been raised in a more traditional manner, baking cakes with my mother and painting my nails, I might be one of those bleach-blondes with “HOTTIE” emblazoned on the back of my pink sweatpants, shaking my head at the memory of the power-line Barbie as another silly stunt of an annoying little brother.

the wheels on the bus go round and round

I fucking hate the bus.

Standing for 20 mins in the cold/rain/wind/hail/snow/typhoon/shit Eugene weather, smelling cigarettes in the non-smoking terminal (even better when it's the fucking bus driver doing it), getting on and listening to everyone around me hack and cough that phlegmy, diseased cough, knowing that I'm probably going to get a disease from that or the seats/windows/railings, listening to screaming babies, raving lunatics, idiot punk conversations, cell phones ringing at max volume, conversations in spanish, smelling whatever nasty, foul lunches that people are eating like they're not supposed to be, jesus fucking christ.

Wanna know why nobody wants to fund public transportation? Take a ride and guess. This is fucking why. Once they ride the bus one time and experience the joy that is public transportation, the rich kids all pay for parking and drive to school. The poor people don't have the money to do shit, so nothing ever changes.

But really, money isn't going to do shit anyway. Like everything else in the world, it's the fucking people that ruin it.